By Mac Guerreiro
An island onto myself is what eye tend to be. Where people eye know seem to be good at remembering birthdays, keeping in touch and being a social person eye often fail. My energy on the other hand appears to reach far and eye credit this to my keeping friends for years even after we’re no longer in the same geographical vicinity. This doesn’t mean that eye don’t often feel like a failure as a friend. When eye see others gushing on Instagram because their bestie is having a birthday week eye can’t help but self-reflect on the fact that eye have the hardest time even remembering birthdays. Granted, dates have never been my forte when it comes to memorization. Perhaps eye’m a little too hard on myself, but on the flip side, eye know eye can do better.
In order to do better, however, eye need to only take on what eye can handle and that means prioritizing certain people. This is tough because eye want to be able to remember everyone’s special day especially connections that once were solid yet now lay on an acquaintance foundation. Eye want all of those whom have impacted me positively to know that they didn’t fade from my heart; come to think of it eye can always extend my energy their way. Those whom are present though, eye want to do more for them. Eye’ve come up with a couple of things that eye feel good about: saving their birthdays on my phone under their contact (Einstein even said, don’t waste brain power memorizing what you can look up) and come their special day (or randomly) send them a letter expressing my gratitude for their presence in my life. This feels manageable, heartfelt and unique to the way eye express love.
It’s okay to be my own island, but eye must remember the social nature of the species eye’ve chosen to incarnate into. For that reason eye’m committed to being an island with a thriving harbor.