By Mac Guerreiro
Eye’ve always been one to take action, go for the things eye want. This has also translated in the way eye approach the opposite sex. Never being what one would classify as a “shy” girl eye didn’t see the big deal in letting a man know that eye’m interested. In fact, when the big wave of feminism that demanded “women to try to be just as good as men in all the same things” hit eye stuck even more to my strategy. My thought was, “if he can’t take a woman that knows what she wants and goes after it, he’s not for me.” To a degree, eye still feel that way, but much has changed as well.
As eye matured and learned about this little thing called biology and the energetic flow of all things in the universe my viewpoint began shifting. At first eye rejected it all together, this idea that Mother Nature has wired women to be the prey and men to be the hunters. Eye didn’t want to accept it (although much like gravity, it affects you regardless of your acceptance of it) because being a hunter came easily to me and seemed to work very well in all other aspects of my life. Of course, when it came to men that was the complete opposite. Eye still got asked out, men approached me, but the moment eye realized their interest in me eye would shift into hunter mode. This would cause things to to deescalate and fizzle out quickly and eye couldn’t see why to save my life. Another caveat of shifting into pursuit mode is realizing that you’re unsure of whether he’s still around because he wants to be or because you’re making it such an easy option. Why would a man deny a fun, sexy female that also chases after him? He won’t until another female catches his eye and if he has to chase her you can bet your ass he’ll leave you real quick, because let’s be real, valuable things take more effort than eye was allowing men to put in.
Finally, eye realized that biology or not, eye just didn’t want to be the one pursuing anymore; eye want to KNOW that a man craves my time and attention. The only way to be sure is to allow myself to be pursued. This mentality is also the best way to weed out the fuckbois, because they will not put effort into something that’s even remotely challenging and chasing an alpha female definitely isn’t a passive endeavor.
All in all, eye’m all for feminism because eye believe that in many situations men and women are equal, but also in many situations we are not. The same way eye don’t expect a baby to anticipate the mother’s needs as the mother does for said baby eye don’t expect myself to do the hunting when eye am not the hunter. It’s a new world, and eye believe that to recognize the true order of things we need to swing to extremes, but eventually we come back to center and the truth of this universe is that everything functions in the flow of yin and yang (feminine and masculine) and unless we honor that flow we are living in resistance.